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I bet you don't even think about all the skills you are using when you drive your car. "It's simple" you say. You just get in the car, and drive to your destination.
Big deal, right?
But think back for a second:
Your first driving lesson.
The first time on the highway.
First time parallel parking.
Your driving test.
Every time you drive on the road, you are using multiple skills, simultaneously, to not only reach your destination, but also to avoid horrendous accidents. Your eyes check the mirror, the speedometer, the gauges, you make sure to stay in the correct lane, you are watching the other traffic, both in your direction and the opposing.
Well, let me tell you something- when an "average" looking guy goes up to an attractive woman who is a complete stranger, and he walks away with her phone number, or with her herself, you can be sure he's got a license...to drive, if you will.
He can ride right into the territory of a beautiful woman, without causing an accident, a crash, or a breakdown, and then travel into her mind, conveying who he is, so that she will want to join him as he drives away.
It looks like nothing, because his skills have been so integrated to the point of it being instinct- he doesn't even think about what he's doing, it just happens. The first thing that you must realize is that YOU are driving here, NOT HER. So she's not going to do your job.
If you are wearing stinking clothes, or out of fashion clothes, if you need a lesson in basic hygiene, if you don't ensure you have fresh breath, trust me, SHE IS NOT GOING TO TAKE CARE OF THIS FOR YOU.
This is like putting SLUDGE into your gas tank and expecting your car to move. Nobody cares if your car doesn't work. They're not going to fix it for you unless you bring your car in and pay for it.
It's YOUR car, your responsibility.
YOU are in the driver's seat.
And when you approach a woman, no matter what happens, no matter what her reaction, it is up to YOU to take her mentally where you want to go. Let me tell you something, if you go up to a woman in a public place where she is NOT expecting it, you can't expect her to just say "HERE I AM, TAKE ME!".
If it was THAT pathetically easy, EVERY GUY would do it!
Let's face it- it's not typical social convention to do this. To just "go up to a woman". AND THAT IS A GOOD, GOOD THING. Because by NOT following social convention, it shows you have GUTS.
Women LIKE that.
It ALSO is more romantic for a woman to have a man SPONTANEOUSLY approach her than for her to have a formal introduction. It's far more impulsive and thrilling when a man sees a woman and just goes right up to her. So even though a woman may give you at first a slightly defensive reaction, like her eyes widening a bit, RELAX.
DON'T ABANDON SHIP.
STAY ON COURSE.
This is to be expected many times.
STAY COOL.
She is looking to YOU, the MAN, to show her that you are NOT PSYCHO, and ALSO that you are A SEXY, COOL, CONFIDENT MAN who does NOT give up at her natural defensive reaction. One of the things you can do to lessen her fear, is to approach her with a funny TEASE. It's hard to be scared and laughing at the same time. One of my favorite lines to ask a woman who is walking somewhere, "Hey where do you think you're going?" and no matter what she responds, tease her on it.
Remember, it's not the line, you can come up with thousands of your own lines, it's the attitude you convey. TEASING also prevents you from looking like a desperate man trying to kiss up to her. Your BODY LANGUAGE conveys much of your message as well- if you are SMILING the ENTIRE time you are talking to her, she will feel that she already has you hook line and sinker, and so there is nothing left for her to work for - you've ROBBED her of THE JOY of trying to IMPRESS YOU.
After all, she doesn't HAVE to try anymore, since you've indicated with your constant smiling that she ALREADY HAS you. Instead of giving a woman ALL THE POWER in the interaction, I recommend you HOLD ON to some of it yourself, and let a woman EARN the rest.
For example, who says you have to FACE A WOMAN COMPLETELY when you talk to her? Even though usually, you SHOULD look at her, and you should NOT have darting eyes, the principle of holding on to your power can even bend this rule if you understand how it works. But certainly, you DON'T HAVE TO ACTUALLY FACE HER WITH THE REST OF YOUR BODY.
At a recent workshop, on of my students went up to a girl at the mall, right by the sign that shows you where everything in the mall is...he started speaking to her while staring at the sign----
Guess what?
She starts talking to him, looking at HIM, meanwhile, he KEEPS talking as he's LOOKING at the map and the sign. This goes on for a while...
Although here it was a perfectly natural thing to do, most guys would behave as if "Well, it's a pretty girl, I want to show her my respect and interest so of course I'm going to look at her- I don't want to lose her by not looking at her'".
Women WANT men, but they DON'T WANT what they ALREADY HAVE. When you give all your power away to women, they KNOW that they
already have you. This is why it is so crucial to be more cavalier with women, especially when you first meet them. Any nervous gestures, erratic or rapid body movements all show her that you think she is the greatest thing on earth and that you value yourself as being below her.
Usually, after a bit of a tease, she will be more relaxed, if not, continue to be calm and cool, and DO NOT TURN INTO AN APOLOGETIC SCARED CHILD.
Instead, tease her again with some humor. You don't HAVE to tease her, you could just make small talk- if you use the RIGHT VOICE TONE, the RIGHT BODY LANGUAGE, the RIGHT FACIAL EXPRESSIONS. I could say the word "Hi" in at least 50 different ways, to convey anything from total insecurity, to total confidence, to a combination of a mischievous sly smile with a tone of naughtiness.
Do you see how this can work?
Once you have a woman warmed up, to the fact that you are NOT a psycho, and that YOU ARE a masculine, cool guy, I recommend that you have a bit of small talk to help make a connection between the two of you- i.e. what she's getting in the mall, or where she's coming from, or where did she get that interesting hat, or button, etc, etc, etc. If the conversation is really going great, you can arrange an INSTANT DATE right then and there- tell her you both should discuss some more over a coffee.
After your little instant date, at the bare minimum give her a hug and if she holds on, give her a kiss. AGAIN, your voice tone, your body language, all must convey that you are totally relaxed and calm and IN CONTROL....WOMEN NEED TO BE LED BY A MAN, they are REPULSED by the idea of THEM leading YOU.
You don't have to go for the Instant Date, you could instead just tell her to give you her email, (or number- I believe email is practical and easier for everyone to reach each other these days at their convenience- plus she doesn't have to worry if you are psycho).
And no matter what, don't worry about the consequences of your approach- if she digs you, great, if she doesn't, big deal, there are thousands of other women waiting and wanting for a cool guy like you to approach them. And as your skills get better, you'll notice that the real question becomes who do YOU select to go out with. And if you want to get YOUR license for attracting women, for getting physical, and for KEEPING women crazy about you, I recommend you download my eBook, The Dating Wizard: Secrets to Success with Women.
Not only does it give you step-by-step details on how to meet women and get instant dates, emails and numbers, but it also teaches you how to get into the right mindset and keep your mind that way.
You can begin reading this important information within MINUTES of now.
To download the eBook, just go to:
http://www.thedatingwizard.com/the_dating_wizard.htm
And if you would like a personal one-on-one telephone or email consultation with myself, you can now arrange that by calling 416 630 9966 or emailing me at Michael@TheDatingWizard.com
Over the course of one million years, man has adapted and evolved powerful strategies for attracting women.
Now, you can learn them all in just a few hours of reading and practice.
Make the decision to become more successful with women NOW. You really can have success with women- the choice is now in your hands.
Till next time...
From someone who's been there,
Michael W
Michael W, better known as The Dating Wizard, shows how to attract any woman in any situation through his LIVE demonstrations in real life venues like clubs, cafes, and bookstores. These demonstrations are part of Michael's workshops and bootcamps where clients are taught exactly how to achieve the same results. He is a frequent guest on radio and television talk shows nationwide, and also offers additional private coaching services over the telephone. To find out more information about Michael's services as well as
his best selling eBook, "The Dating Wizard: Secrets to Success with Women", go to his website at www.TheDatingWizard.com
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What you are about to read is not conjecture. I didn't make it up or dream it up. It is based on my ACTUAL experimentation in the REAL world. And not just one day's worth. I'm talking YEARS of testing this stuff.
Super gorgeous women are not necessarily attracted to guys with cars, big houses, a sense of humor, or anything else PER SE. And they are actually NOT particularly attracted to JERKS, per se.
What women ARE attracted to is something that I call SUPERIOR INTRINSIC VALUE. SIV for short. It's got nothing to do with cars or any other external object.
SIV's are the INTRINSIC personal abilities and traits that are considered superior by a woman's biology and ALSO by the society to which she identifies with.
So for example, almost ANY ability that you possess that society values will not only be respected by a woman, but actually, to varying extents, make a woman attracted to you.
So for example, FIREFIGHTERS are highly valued by society. They are heroic, etc. And guess what, FIREFIGHTERS are considered sexy to the max. Now, it's not the OFFICIAL JOB, it's not the money, even if he didn't get paid, this ability has INTRINSIC value in our society.
How about something like a sense of humor?
Well, society DOES value a sense of humor, but if you make SELF-DEPRECATING jokes about yourself to a woman, she may very well interpret that you are LOW on INTRINSIC VALUE despite your sense of humor.
And so your sense of humor was used in a way that actually LOST you points on the sexy scale.
See that?
How about being RICH? MONEY is not INTRINSIC to your PERSONAL IDENTITY. So winning the lottery doesn't make you sexy. But if you for example earned it on your own without having the path smoothed for you it is an ABILITY that is ATTRACTIVE. The MORE society VALUES that ability, or that TRAIT, the SEXIER you become.
And yes, LOOKS is also an INTRINSIC trait that is part of you, but it is only ONE trait. But here is the REALLY REALLY BIG NEWS:
YOUR ACTUAL INTRINSIC VALUE IS ALMOST COMPLETELY IRRELEVANT.
WHAT DOES MATTER IS WHAT WOMEN FEEEEEL YOUR INTRINSIC VALUE IS!
This is why you can have a guy who has every credential in the book who is alone on Saturday night and another guy who has got NOTHING and has more babes than he can handle. A woman bases her feelings for you on just about EVERYTHING you do. Even the way you dress. And how she feels it conveys your intrinsic worth or lack of it.
And she does it all UNCONSCIOUSLY.
You can't EXPLAIN to her why you are a sexy guy. Or why someone else is NOT a sexy or good guy for her. It doesn't work that way.
The "sexual choices" processes in the human mind are based on life the way it was a million years ago, not the way it is today. A time when we sized up our sexual mates by observing rather than talking over coffee.
You're not going to change evolution overnight. Instead, you have to learn to COMMUNICATE with a mind that is operating on a million year old
program. A program designed to deal with a different situation. Mind you, it was a VERY EFFECTIVE program one million years ago.
It's just not updated yet.
So we have to learn to speak its (her) language or we're all going to get nowhere, okay? Hey, women don't mind working hard to speak to us in OUR illogical language- i.e. DOING THEIR BEST TO LOOK LIKE GORGEOUS BABES! So let's do our part and communicate our best too.
Describing the entire language here is beyond the scope of this newsletter, but allow me to give a picture of it here. Since women are designed to be attracted to SUPERIOR INTRINSIC VALUE, they will be observing your behavior to see if it's CONGRUENT and CONSISTENT with that of a man who TRULY HAS SUPERIOR INTRINSIC VALUE.
So let's say for example, guy ONE goes to a busy club and at first just watches for 15 minutes and does not interact with anyone and basically looks pretty serious. And then he decides to go out on the dance floor and aggressively bumps and grinds with a few girls he doesn't know.
He asks one of them some question like if they always come there. They nod and go away and before he knows it, they are talking to some other guy. Then he goes back to watching.
Now, let's say you saw another guy come in, who seemed a lot more relaxed, a good mood, he teases some girls about their wacky outfits, and as they laugh he winks, walks away and gets himself a drink. On the way there, he bumps into a couple of girls and tells them jokingly to stop feeling him up, and at the bar he casually starts talking to some girls beside him about some latest gossip about JLo and Ben Affleck.
Pretty soon, the original girls he met (who he has actually forgotten about since he planned to actually chat it up with ALL the girls there and so they were not the main thing on his mind) are walking by, they see him with these other girls and make eye contact anyway.
Okay, FREEZE FRAME.
Do you see what is going ON here?
There is a LOT going on here. The first guy has done a set of actions that conveys a certain MESSAGE about himself. The SECOND guy has done a DIFFERENT set of actions and conveyed a DIFFERENT message about himself.
Which guy do YOU think is cooler? Number ONE or number TWO?
Exactly.
Now let's say you had to GUESS about what type of guy each guy is, and what is going ON in each of their lives. And you're GUT feeling about each guy. Two very different pictures, right?
One seems kind of a sad picture. A guy who drinks alone, maybe is alone at work and not popular, maybe is boring, who has no self-confidence. The other seems HAPPENING.
Well, I'm here to tell you that the ONLY difference is that ONE of these guys has LEARNED the language to convey intrinsic worth, and the other one has NOT. THIS is LANGUAGE- body language, behavior, words, attitude. It is the way COOL GUYS COMMUNICATE that they are sexually desirable to women. And the good news is that this language actually is not haphazard once it's explained to you.
COOL really boils down to:
CONVEYING THE AURA OF SUPERIOR INTRINSIC WORTH.
When a woman senses this "aura" around you, it's PARTY TIME, BIG TIME, for you.
And here is the BEST news:
You can actually LEARN how to convey this "aura".
Everyone has an aura.
The question is, is it the aura they want to project? Is that current aura even an accurate image? Anytime you are in the presence of women, or even interacting with women through something like the internet or the telephone, whether you like it or not, and whether you want to or not, you are actually sending THOUSANDS of messages to women.
Even while you are SILENT.
Now what you can do is either spend forever trying to figure out the language, or you can get into HIGH GEAR and get on the EXPRESS ROUTE to success with women. If you want to get on the EXPRESS ROUTE, I recommend you download my eBook,
The Dating Wizard: Secrets to Success with Women.
It is the BASE FOUNDATION for your success, and it's the place to start. Like everything I do, it comes with a money-back guarantee and if you have any questions about something you read in the book, just email me and I'll answer your question. You have absolutely nothing to lose. Try it out for 30 days.
If you're not convinced that the ideas and information in my book are useful for you, then just email me and you'll get a refund.
You can begin reading this important information within MINUTES of now. To download the eBook, just go to:
http://www.thedatingwizard.com/the_dating_wizard.htm
And if you would like a personal one-on-one telephone or email consultation with myself, you can now arrange that by calling 416 630 9966 or emailing me at Michael@TheDatingWizard.com
Over the course of one million years, man has adapted and evolved powerful strategies for attracting women.
Now, you can learn them all in just a few hours of reading and practice.
Make the decision to become more successful with women NOW. You really can have success with women- the choice is now in your hands.
Till next time...
Michael W
Michael W, better known as The Dating Wizard, shows how to attract any woman in any situation through his LIVE demonstrations in real life venues like clubs, cafes, and bookstores. These demonstrations are part of Michael's workshops and bootcamps where clients are taught exactly how to achieve the same results. He is a frequent guest on radio and television talk shows nationwide, and also offers additional private coaching services over the telephone. To find out more information about Michael's services as well as
his best selling eBook, "The Dating Wizard: Secrets to Success with Women", go to his website at www.TheDatingWizard.com
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When I decided to devote my life to helping men succeed with women, it wasn't a half-way commitment. The truth is, this stuff fascinates me, and I just can't get enough.
Even when I am not writing, or in middle of giving a consultation, I still am constantly seeking to further my knowledge and understanding of women, whether it be through research or observation. And not long ago, I came to a massive conclusion about what women want, what really turns women on.
The ESSENCE of a woman's attraction to a man, if you will. This essence is the REAL reason behind any "tactic" for success with women.
Whether you think it's "money", or "looks", or "prestige", or "fame", or "being funny", or "being cool", the ONLY reason ANY of that may work to turn a woman ON is because.....(get ready for this):
SHE FEELS YOU ARE EMANATING UNSTOPPABLE POWER.
Maybe you've heard the quote from Henry Kissinger, the famous Secretary of State: "POWER is the ultimate aphrodisiac." He was right, except that I bet even HE didn't realize the true EXTENT of what he said.
You see, most people tend to think of power only in terms of money and politics. And those are forms of power...
But they are NOT the only forms of power, and actually are NOT the most POTENT forms of power to a WOMAN. Women have been attracted to a certain kind of man for over one million years, and it's not about to change overnight.
In a hostile environment where survival was constantly at stake, where a woman needed a man who could hunt, who was brave, who could defend.... what kind of man do you think she would be attracted to?
You got it:
A MAN WHO WAS HARDENED.
A MAN WHO WAS BRAVE.
A MAN WITH CONFIDENCE.
This is the kind of power women want to see in you. Now, let me ask you a question:
When you see an attractive woman, and you wish you could speak to her, what are the thoughts running through your mind?
Are you thinking any of the following thoughts below?
"How do I talk to her?"
"She's so beautiful, man, I don't have a chance."
"What do I say?"
"She's with her friends, they'll make fun of me"
"What if she rejects me?"
"What if I look like an idiot?"
"What do I have to offer?"
"Why would she be nice to me?"
Now, do you see how if you are thinking these very THOUGHTS, you will then NOT demonstrate the characteristics that turn women ON? Every ONE of those thoughts run COMPLETELY COUNTER to what it is she DESIRES in a man. There is only ONE WAY to succeed with women: You must BLOW INTO OBLIVION any doubts about your own abilities and sexual desirability to a woman.
As a matter of fact, you actually have to do MORE than this- you have to actually get to the point that you feel that she WANTS you just as much as you may want HER. Do you see why this is?
Let me explain:
Your attraction to her is based on evolution: In a nutshell, her sexy body means healthy child-bearing abilities.
This is why you are attracted to her.
You are NOT attracted to her on a sexual level because you both enjoy English literature.
So let me tell you the PRIMARY reason SHE would be attracted to YOU:
It would be because you EMANATE MASCULINE POWER through being dominant, confident, and having loads of self-esteem.
This is SEXY AS HELL to her. Everything ELSE is HOGWASH.
When I say everything else, I really do mean EVERYTHING: You know, those things like LOGIC? Or like being a "nice" guy? FORGET IT.
This is why women often love BAD BOYS. BAD BOYS do whatever they want and fear nothing. And they explain NOTHING. You don't have to be a jerk, but you MUST be A MAN. It doesn't COST anything to do this. It's not something that is only available to the rich, or to any other exclusive group.
Being a MAN in your behaviors and thoughts, is more sexy than just being a millionaire, because is PRIMAL, visceral, and universal across cultures. Your behavior is YOU, your money is only an indirect extension. And if you think that looks is the greatest determinant of your sexiness, you are dead wrong. Throughout history, men proved their sexual attractiveness to women through many methods other than just their "looks". Some of these other avenues were through combat, through jousting, and through status. And again, you can see that these avenues all reflect POWER.
The same is not true for women. A woman could be rich as hell, a great warrior, or whatever, the fact is, men will be attracted primarily to her looks. It's all about being dominant and not doubting yourself for a SECOND. If you approach a woman with an apologetic attitude, you're TOAST, I guarantee it.
I used to think that women LIKED it if you acted all soft, weak, and mushy, because all you heard from women was them complaining about their
hard-edged BAD BOYS. Now I know the truth- women actually are TURNED ON by this, and they are so massively turned on, that it BOTHERS these women that they CAN'T CONTROL these guys, because these women are afraid of LOSING these guys. That's why the women complain.
Get ready for another blast to your reality:
You know how some guys are funny and women love them?
Guess what?
It has NOTHING to do with being funny. NOTHING AT ALL. I know PLENTY OF GUYS WHO ARE FUNNY AS HECK, and women laugh, but they will never go out with these guys.
When a woman is turned on by a guy's sense of humor, it's ONLY IF HIS SENSE OF HUMOR CONVEYS DOMINANCE, SELF-ESTEEM, AND CONFIDENCE. In other words, when a guy TEASES the hell out of a woman, it TURNS HER ON.
Now of course women will never tell you this, because this is powerful stuff that in the wrong hands could cause damage...kind of like the damage caused by an attractive woman who uses a guy for his money, his emotional support, etc, and then DUMPS him when another REAL MAN who refuses to be a doormat and can never be controlled comes along.
So don't fool yourself for a second thinking that being funny turns women on. Today, because of modern civilization, you can't just be a caveman. However, you STILL need to be a MAN who is dominant, fearless, confident, CALM and cool.
And with HUMOR, you can show these characteristics without getting arrested!
It's almost like what you are really doing by teasing a woman in a FUNNY way is sugar-coating the WILD MAN in you so it's politically and socially acceptable.
But trust me, there are plenty of men out there who are NOT funny, and who are too dominant for our social environment today....who end up with criminal records....and who, of course, ARE MASSIVELY DESIRED BY THEIR GIRLFRIENDS.
Think about Marlon Brando's character in "A Streetcar Named Desire". This guy would be considered socially unacceptable, but the fact is, his BAD BOY ways would start a WILDFIRE OF PASSION in most women. Think about all this the next time you see a beautiful woman.
As a matter of fact, DON'T EVEN LEAVE YOUR DOORSTEP until you put yourself into a state of mind of being unstoppable. And try to be that way for ALL the areas of your life, not not just for attracting women.
The next time you see a woman you would like to speak with, grab life by the reigns and take destiny into your hands by going up to her with the intent that you are making her day as much as she might make yours.
It's what women want.
If you want to learn to do this, then I recommend you read my ebook, The Dating Wizard: Secrets to Success with Women. I focus on how to succeed with women by getting you back to your natural masculine self. I'm not a fan of tricks and techniques for getting women, I AM a believer in attracting women by being the man you were born to be.
I also show you step by step how to go about approaching a woman, how to get numbers and emails, how to go about dating, and I also explain the best way to smoothly make the transition to getting physical. And there is a special section on relationships if you desire to pursue one and make it last while keeping it exciting and fresh.
You can begin reading this important information within MINUTES of now.
To download the eBook, just go to:
http://www.thedatingwizard.com/the_dating_wizard.htm
And if you would like a personal one-on-one telephone or email consultation with myself, you can now arrange that by calling 416 630 9966 or emailing me at Michael@TheDatingWizard.com
Over the course of one million years, man has adapted and evolved powerful strategies for attracting women.
Now, you can learn them all in just a few hours of reading and practice.
Make the decision to become more successful with women NOW. You really can have success with women- the choice is now in your hands.
Till next time...
From someone who's been there,
Michael W
Michael W, better known as The Dating Wizard, shows how to attract any woman in any situation through his LIVE demonstrations in real life venues like clubs, cafes, and bookstores. These demonstrations are part of Michael's workshops and bootcamps where clients are taught exactly how to achieve the same results. He is a frequent guest on radio and television talk shows nationwide, and also offers additional private coaching services over the telephone. To find out more information about Michael's services as well as
his best selling eBook, "The Dating Wizard: Secrets to Success with Women", go to his website at www.TheDatingWizard.com
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Today, I'm going to share some critical information with you.
If you want the best chance of having a successful approach with an attractive woman, it's CRUCIAL to convey several things:
1. That you are NOT desperate at ALL.
2. That you are DOMINANT AND MEAN BUSINESS.
3. That you are being SPONTANEOUS.
4. That you are SINCERE.
5. That you are a WINNER in LIFE.
Notice how NONE of the things mentioned above are about how INCREDIBLY AWESOME you think SHE is. That's because, if you are the kind of MAN she wants to meet, then in HER mind, she's thinking that you should be able to attract women like her without a problem, so she really shouldn't be a big deal to you.
Now, let's go through the above elements, and HOW TO CONVEY THOSE ELEMENTS TO A WOMAN.
It's important to realize that in order to convey something to a woman, you must understand how WOMEN interpret things, even if the way they interpret things is COMPLETELY WRONG!
#1. NOT BEING DESPERATE AT ALL
First of all, anything that indicates EFFORT to speak to her, on your part, is a signal to a woman that you are desperate.
Notice I said EFFORT, not COURAGE.
Let me give you examples of indicating too much effort:
You see a woman in a mall, walking, and she is FAR away from you. If you want to approach her, do not let her see that you are running half way across the mall to approach her! Instead, you should set it up so that you walk ahead of her without her noticing that you have noticed HER, then casually slow down, turn a bit as if you are looking at something, and VOILA- she just "happens" to walk right toward you. NOW you can do your thing- after all, she was right in front of you, right- it was NO BIG DEAL...lol
Second, anything that puts her on a pedestal also reeks of desperation. This includes over-use of compliments, ( I prefer to use none) especially on her beauty. Also, agreeing with everything she says and constant smiling and nodding also reeks of desperation. It says that you are treating her as if she has THE POWER TO MAKE YOU SO DAMN HAPPY- this THROWS ALL THE POWER IN HER COURT, and makes you seem INFERIOR.
After all, if you are not desperate, then why are you getting so excited and happy from her? Let HER smile instead. Giving her too much approval, too much attention, leaning in to her physically or metaphorically, all add up to d-e-s-p-e-r-a-t-i-o-n in her mind. Also, I should mention that acting MEAN does NOT SHOW that you are not desperate, it actually shows that you are indeed bitter and desperate.
2. BEING DOMINANT AND MEANING BUSINESS
Women can tell IMMEDIATELY if a guy lacks guts- if he is less than dominant, when he approaches them and opens his mouth. Sometimes, even BEFORE he approaches them, women can tell if he is a submissive little boy.
How?
Simple: If a guy STARES at a woman instead of just IMMEDIATELY approaching her, a woman knows the guy is TOO NERVOUS to act on his
DESIRE. So if you ever see a woman you'd like to approach, don't let her in on it before you have decided to TAKE ACTION.
Now, it's best to just go up immediately, so you don't over analyze the situation and bog yourself down with doubts, but if you have no idea what you are going to say, (i.e. you need to figure out a tease to say), then don't look at her as you are figuring out what you are going to say. Figure it out, and THEN IMMEDIATELY approach her. Meaning "business" is especially important when you ask for an email, or if you suggest an "instant date". Let's say you've chatted it up with a woman for a few minutes, and then you ask for her email...
At this point, I believe a woman makes a subtle TEST...she wants to see if you MEAN BUSINESS, or if you are just playing around, or if you are too scared to really do this kind of thing, etc, etc.
DO NOT SMILE when you ask for the email. Look her straight in the eye, totally calm, without fear, without smiling. You are being a man, offering a woman something she WANTS. Sugar coating it with smiles, etc, only makes it look like you are trying to sell her a raw deal. And if there is a pause, a silence, DO NOT FILL THE "uncomfortable" quiet by saying ANYTHING.
You asked her for her email, and now she has a CHOICE to say yes no or maybe. But if YOU fill the void, it's a sign of you NOT being confident, it's a sign of you trying to find a way out of this "emotional risk" (which is really no risk when you think about it)- and that would not be sexy. During that pause, she will be checking your expression to see if you are a MAN. If she sees you MEAN it, and are offering her NO EASY WAY OUT to lessen the rejection you may face, it shows her you are not afraid of the consequences of your asking, because you MEAN IT and are prepared to accept whatever may happen.
This is NOT desperation, it's MEANING BUSINESS.
By the way, in terms of dominance, it's crucial not to make the mistake of thinking this means to be a JERK. What it really means is to behave in a way that only a guy who is TOO COMFORTABLE with her can. Being a smart-ass can sometimes convey dominance as well- here's an example:
Once, I was at a trendy clothing store and teasing the girl who worked there, telling her the caps on display (which had a "beat up" look) were defective merchandise...she laughs and tells me it's the style, I tease her some more and say "Sure, you get this stuff at a garage sale and then call it "the latest style" " She laughs more.. then I take the hat and put it ON HER HEAD...and I take a long moment...as if I am deciding if it looks good or not on her, instead of just kissing up....
She was EATING THIS UP...loving every second of it. This is what I mean by dominance, as opposed to being a jerk.
#3 BEING SPONTANEOUS
This is a funny one to me, because in reality, what APPEARS to be spontaneous to a woman is actually REHEARSED, and when a guy is truly spontaneous, he comes across to a woman as desperate. I like to consider myself a "good" guy. Years ago, I used to go up to women and I was all nervous and fumbled. But the reality is that I was that way because I had NOT rehearsed, because I was BEING IMPULSIVE AND SPONTANEOUS. And of course got hardly any positive results. I had no plan, I would just see a woman and go up to her, revealing whatever I was feeling at that moment.
Spontaneous. But women interpret that as being a guy who is a sicko, or desperate, etc. To appear SPONTANEOUS in a good sense, you actually have to PRACTICE! Hey, I didn't say women were logical...
That means whenever you see women anywhere, go up to them and tease them, and chat them up, and don't think too much about how seriously interested you are or are not. It's about developing the skill to just go up to women and tease, chat, without thinking...
This way, when you see that woman that you just HAVE to go up to, you will be well-REHEARSED so you can look SMOOTH and SPONTANEOUS! And of course, the worst thing you can do to ruin the appearance of being spontaneous is to STARE AT A WOMAN for five minutes before you actually go up to her. JUST GO, IMMEDIATELY. This is very romantic for a woman, when a stranger just pops into their
life like that, so the women feel it was all destiny, blah blah blah... just like in a Harlequin romance novel... and when they are in bed with you, they will be thinking "it just happened" it was beyond their control, it was fate...blah blah blah...
#4 SHOWING THAT YOU ARE SINCERE
It's important that a woman think you are sincere, and not a psycho, or a player. However, most guys overdo this part and instead show that they are not only sincere, but guys behave as if they sincerely think they are UNWORTHY of an attractive woman. (As if somehow being attractive makes a woman more worthy inherently). You can also be TOO SMOOTH, where a woman is really into you, and you can OVERWHELM her with being SO CONFIDENT in your body language, behavior, wit and smart-assness, that she feels it would be awesome to be with you, but that you are OUT OF HER LEAGUE.
The key to showing that you are sincere, without overdoing it, is to adjust to your particular woman in front of you, to determine how confident she herself is...by her responses, etc. And you should then accordingly pepper your smart-ass/teasing style conversation with a light small talk, and also by actually LISTENING to what she is saying, without kissing her butt. In other words, by having some normal conversation. The more confident she is, the more teasing she gets, the less confident she is, the more small talk.
#5 BEING A WINNER
Women are attracted to men who are in CONTROL of their lives and their emotions. So being a pessimist, or full of hate, or being a whiner or complainer is not a good idea. Droopy posture doesn't help either. Equally important is being the kind of person who is passionate about life, who ENJOYS life, who has goals in life, and has a plan, and is putting the plan into action. FOR HIMSELF, NOT IN ORDER TO PLEASE ANY WOMAN.
Now, you could LIE about yourself, but why not actually find the things you are interested and passionate about and become involved in them? Most of what holds us back is fear, and when you abandon your fears and go for your goals, it not only makes your life more enjoyable, but others become drawn toward you as well. Since the beginning, women have needed men for survival, who could endure a hostile environment laden with numerous threats and unpredictable situations.
Think about the personality of a man who thrived in such an environment- he was a go-getter, he was not a pessimist, and yet he was also not living in a FANTASY, either he knew the realities and DEALT with them. Women still are attracted to that kind of man. And if you want to learn more about how to meet women ANYWHERE, how to take things from initial encounter to getting physical, to how to deal with any "tests" that women will throw your way, and how to succeed at a relationship if you desire to have one, then you need to download my eBook, The Dating Wizard: Secrets to Success with Women. In my eBook, I show you step-by-step what you need to know for total success with women. I cover everything from how to gain confidence, to explaining what women REALLY think but will NEVER tell you.
This book is the real deal.
There's no hypnosis, no pheromones, no "filler".
It's the information you need to know for success with women today.
You can begin reading this important information within MINUTES of now.
To download the eBook, just go to:
http://www.thedatingwizard.com/the_dating_wizard.htm
And if you would like a personal one-on-one telephone or email consultation with myself, you can now arrange that by calling 416 630 9966 or emailing me at Michael@TheDatingWizard.com
Over the course of one million years, man has adapted and evolved powerful strategies for attracting women.
Now, you can learn them all in just a few hours of reading and practice.
Make the decision to become more successful with women NOW. You really can have success with women- the choice is now in your hands.
Till next time...
From someone who's been there,
Michael W
Michael W, better known as The Dating Wizard, shows how to attract any woman in any situation through his LIVE demonstrations in real life venues like clubs, cafes, and bookstores. These demonstrations are part of Michael's workshops and bootcamps where clients are taught exactly how to achieve the same results. He is a frequent guest on radio and television talk shows nationwide, and also offers additional private coaching services over the telephone. To find out more information about Michael's services as well as
his best selling eBook, "The Dating Wizard: Secrets to Success with Women", go to his website at www.TheDatingWizard.com
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Power.
It's what attraction is all about. It's what creates "sexual tension", which when finally released, is so passionate. When you WANT something, and you can't easily have it, there is that tension...so that when you finally do get it, you cherish it with gusto.
No one is attracted to someone who conveys a sense of being powerless. When it comes to being a MAN, however, power is not only important, it's EVERYTHING.
You see, a woman, if she is attractive, simply has to have a decent personality, and not act desperate. That's all the power she needs to be attractive. A man however, has to convey a lot more than just NOT BEING DESPERATE. This is because a man cannot rely on his looks as much as a woman can in order to stir attraction. A woman is NEVER attracted to a man who seems to be "equal" with her. In some major way, he has to be MORE than her.
Hence, you hear about women wanting a man who is TALLER, who is RICHER, (even if she is already wealthy!) who is from a higher social class, etc, etc, etc. And of course, a man who is more DOMINANT than her. Most of all, (whether a woman admits this or not) a woman wants a man who makes HER FEEL that HE is the dominant one.
This is because a DOMINANT MAN makes HER feel FEMININE. When a woman goes out with a guy who SHE has to tell him what to do, who she gets the feeling he is asking HER for approval, she simply feels NO FEMININITY with him, because there is NO CONTRAST.
Think yin-yang here: To feel feminine, she must be with a man who is MASCULINE. When a woman is with a guy who is not dominant, she feels like he is just another GIRL.
Yeah, that's pretty much how she feels. THAT is the reason women say they want a guy who is taller, richer, etc. It's all about making her FEEL feminine.
And to make a long story short, women feel attraction for such masculine men, because for survival, women have needed MEN who were courageous and tough. Life was pretty rough for humankind for most of our history. A woman needed a MAN. And today, emotionally, in their DNA, women STILL carry this legacy of our human history. But today, in the "Western World" women are MORE POWERFUL than they have ever been in history.
Now, before anyone jumps to conclusions, let me make it clear: I am NOT saying this is a BAD thing.
However, since attraction is BASED on the dynamics of power between a man and woman, it would be LUDICROUS to ignore the effect of these social developments on the situation between men and women today. ESPECIALLY when you consider that MOST MEN are ACTING toward women AS IF THEY WERE STILL LIVING IN 1951.
Let me tell you something:
That behavior has only become a formula for disaster in the last couple of generations.
You see, in 1951, if you saw a woman on the street, or in a shop, and you complimented her, you would NOT be immediately categorized as UNDESIRABLE "DESPERATE GEEK".
Why?
Because the average man relative to the average woman was far more powerful. He earned the bulk if not all of the money, he had far more rights and privileges, etc. Also, there was really no such mainstream activity called "dating for fun". In general people married far, far earlier, they were dating for marriage. (Of course there were exceptions to the rule, but I am talking about in general.)
This meant that women were thinking about a man's long term qualities as well as his "sexiness". It was not a "singles culture" like today, where nothing need last more than a day. Okay, so do you see what is going on here?
Since men were far more powerful relative to women than today, "nice" behavior was interpreted far differently. Buying a woman flowers on a first date, or chocolates, or even telling her "I love you" after just a few weeks was not the KISS OF DEATH that it is TODAY. TODAY, women already have TONS of power - education, careers, politics, etc. PLUS, most men have bought into the "GUILT TRIP" that men are BAD, nothing but sex hounds, who are just trying to use women. So we end up with men who are kissing women's asses, in order to "PROVE" that they are not the psychos that women have made us out to be.
We end up with a culture where men are made to look like sex-crazed morons and of course the women appear as almost indifferent to men.
(Just watch some tv commercials and you tell me what you think.)
MEN ARE NOW KISSING WOMEN'S BUTTS, and YET, SIMULTANEOUSLY women have actually made MORE PROGRESS
than EVER before in history.... What is happening is a POWER SHIFT that, when combined with the butt-kissing behavior toward women….renders most men very UNSEXY. Today, when your average man meets a woman, he actually VOLUNTARILY gives away ALL HIS POWER and ALL HIS "CARDS" and ALLOWS the woman to KEEP ALL HER POWER and all her "cards". And then men go around wondering why it's so damn hard to meet a woman who respects them today.
Think about it.
When a man treats a woman as if it's 1951, by acting as if she is penniless and powerless and as if she needs his fancy restaurant dinners, his chocolates, flowers, and his favors….when in reality it's 2003…his behavior is UNATTRACTIVE and simply BEGGING TO BE TAKEN ADVANTAGE OF.
And guess what?
There's more, there's a WHOLE OTHER DIMENSION to this stuff. Not only are most men kissing up to women in a world where women find this now ABSURD and pathetic of men, but something far more subtle, and latent, is occurring.
Stay with me for this one, it's worth it.
Historically, women have been "modest" and have been the ones who regulated sex.* A man "courted" a woman, and then if a woman accepted, they got together and had sex. (or got married, etc.) Today, however, in the quest for equality, women are actually LOWERING their standards when it comes to sex. Less idealism. Women have actually tried to BECOME men in this sense. That's also why you can talk so much more rough to women today, and not only will they take it, but they will probably respect you more, since after all, women are supposed to be equal to men now, and don't need to be treated special, right?
I don't know about you, but I kind of liked the chivalry thing a bit. You have to be real careful with that today though or you may risk being labeled a weak , submissive loser. Now, men have ALWAYS wanted sex to be easier. It was WOMEN who were the ones who made men "earn" it by courting, etc.
Let me ask you a question: In the old context of "courting" was this such a bad thing?
People were looking for lifetime partners, and women were the ones who enforced this higher standard of relationships. If you weren't serious about a woman, it was more difficult to have sex with her than today. (in general) Today, however, women have largely abandoned this role and now are becoming pseudo-men, in the sense of having sex with more partners, and doing it easier. This is great news for men who just want sex. Bad news for men and women who want long lasting relationships.
Like a drug, if you over-indulge in anything, you really need more and more to get the same effect. We have more sex than ever, yet more Prozac
than ever too. (And by the way, far all the "progress", women are no happier either- they are the ones taking Prozac far more than men.) For anyone who thinks this is off, just look at the pattern of some infamous sex offenders- the crimes often start small, then get greater and greater and into the heinous and bizarre.
Why?
Because of desensitization. A bigger crazier novelty is necessary to get the same KICK as before. As a society, we're getting nowhere fast. Sex used to actually have a lot more meaning and served more than just as a raw act. Sex has become largely about SEX and nothing else. Forget the whole old fashioned bonding thing and relationship thing and old fashioned morals and family.
That's for morons, we say.
There's no time for that anymore.
That's out of style.
THE ANSWER
So I wouldn't leave you with a problem without at least giving you the solution, too. The solution is to RECLAIM some power, in order to RESTORE that all-important sexual tension between men and women. Right now, there is NO tension for women– women are kicking men's butts in the dating field. And it's making it rather boring for them. Imagine going to a movie, where in the first 5 minutes the hero says to the villain "You will be caught" and the villain says back "Yeah, you're right: I give up" and then surrenders. No movie, no action, no drama, NO FUN.
Well, don't let women feel that you are NO FUN by being ZERO challenge for them. You don't have to give ANY power away if you don't want to. Let's say you see a woman you would like to approach:
The most important thing to remember is NOT how to be a comedian.
It's NOT about hypnosis.
It's NOT about pheromones.
It's about POWER.
So BEHAVE as if you DO have power, because the reality is that you DO.
Your power is the fact that women want men for being men, and nothing else. Just like you want a woman for being a woman. Throwing in gifts and compliments and flowers and chocolates only screws up the whole natural process, especially when those things will be interpreted as you possessing a LACK of power. In 1951, those acts were interpreted as you being generous, and thoughtful. But it's not 1951. Women WANT men and are not doing men any more of a favor by going out with them than vice versa. Women know this, and it's time you knew it too.
You don't OWE a woman anything more than yourself.
Women are NOT alienated, downtrodden members of society who need your generous support and endless compliments.
And if you start kissing up to women, they will feel NOTHING for you, because you make them feel that you have no power relative to them.
So go up to a woman, and tease her like you would do with someone you felt ZERO intimidation from, or just talk to her like you KNOW she wants you, because the reality is she WANTS that attitude from you, and anything less, IN THIS CURRENT SOCIETY, will be interpreted by her as UGLY and weak for a man.
And when you ask for her number or email, don't make it look like you are begging for some favor. Because it's NOT a favor. Anything less than total dominance these days makes you look real UGLY. And the more DOMINANT you are, the more LEADERSHIP you show, the more ATTRACTIVE you will be. Everything you do should pass through the filter of DOMINANCE- your words, your humor, your body language, your decisions. If you are about to make a joke, ask yourself "Is this self-deprecating or is this more of a making-me-look-SUPERIOR type of joke?"
Hey, guess what?
WOMEN ARE DOING THIS ALL THE TIME.
To MEN.
"I expect a man to do x, y, and z, for me if I am to go out with him" etc, etc.
If you FALL for this, you will LOSE all sexual attractiveness in her eyes. If you are thinking of telling a woman how good she makes you feel, tell her through the prism of dominance- in other words, show her in BED by making LOVE to her. THAT is the way for her to know you have "FEELINGS" for her. NOT from you kissing her butt and saying "I love you" after two days of knowing her. And then, if she turns out to be a "special" woman, who you think is worthy of a relationship, SET YOUR RELATIONSHIP STANDARDS AND MAKE THEM ABSOLUTELY CLEAR.
That means accepting none of the current baloney that is currently passing in many circles as "a relationship". You MUST be a leader in this regard, because society's idea of a relationship is absurd and a formula for disaster. Oddly, today, a man must not only be the leader in terms of initiating contact and sex, but he must also show WOMEN the way a relationship works. Women, in their quest for equality, have abandoned that which they value most, and will THANK you for taking command and accepting nothing less than the best for a relationship.
And if you want to know how to become more DOMINANT with women so that they will feel nothing less than a deep sense of carnal desire for you, I suggest you download and read my eBook, The Dating Wizard: Secrets to Success with Women. It's packed with HUNDREDS of ideas to help you naturally become the man you were MEANT to be. This is THE book for TODAY'S MEN, made for TODAY'S situation with women.
Everything you need to know is clearly explained inside. I give you step-by-step details on how to approach women and get their numbers and emails, how to get physical, and how to get her to want to see you again and again.
You can begin reading this important information within MINUTES of now.
To download the eBook, just go to:
http://www.thedatingwizard.com/the_dating_wizard.htm
And if you would like a personal one-on-one telephone or email consultation with myself, you can now arrange that by calling 416 630 9966 or emailing me at Michael@TheDatingWizard.com
Over the course of one million years, man has adapted and evolved powerful strategies for attracting women.
Now, you can learn them all in just a few hours of reading and practice.
Make the decision to become more successful with women NOW. You really can have success with women- the choice is now in your hands.
Till next time...
From someone who's been there,
Michael W
Michael W, better known as The Dating Wizard, shows how to attract any woman in any situation through his LIVE demonstrations in real life venues like clubs, cafes, and bookstores. These demonstrations are part of Michael's workshops and bootcamps where clients are taught exactly how to achieve the same results. He is a frequent guest on radio and television talk shows nationwide, and also offers additional private coaching services over the telephone. To find out more information about Michael's services as well as
his best selling eBook, "The Dating Wizard: Secrets to Success with Women", go to his website at www.TheDatingWizard.com
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