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Get prepared for dating. If you really want to succeed in the dating
game, decide who you are looking for, do your research and be ready to
commit to dating. Half heartedness won't work. Also prepare for some
let downs along the way but don't take dating too seriously either.
Get your act together. Begin a regime of looking your best. Join a gym,
read health magazines, get fit and start a diet. Get your hair cut or
styled and begin a new regime of good grooming or beauty treatment.
Though it will not find you a date in itself, you will feel a million
times more confident about yourself.
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Go shopping and
treat yourself to new clothes and even a whole new look. Get your image
right, one that you can manage and live with, but one that flatters
you. Don't go overboard and look like someone you are not but maybe its
time to throw out those tired jeans, old sweaters or cardigans and
spruce yourself up. People appreciate appearance.
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Have a good think about what your dating goals are and timescales. Do
you see yourself married within 2 years? If you do then approach dating
accordingly. If you are more laid back and don't take dating too
seriously then ask yourself some honest questions about why you are
dating and what you hope to achieve. If it is purely sex then ask
yourself if you are about to be honest with those you hope to date.
Sort out your confidence levels in advance. By following the first four
tips you will feel better and be more focused. Do all the things that
will boost your confidence from avoiding negative friends (often the
married ones) to attending the right kind of social functions. Couples
at dinner parties in suburbia is not necessarily where you need to be
right now.
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Choose those you have a good chance of dating, don't aim low but do aim
realistically. In other words, your dating is based on the whole
package you present as well as just your personality. If you are
looking for a glamour girl or boy and want to date someone trendy and
gorgeous then good for you, but be prepared and be realistic about your
chances.
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Work out in advance where in your neighborhood you are likely to meet
people and join clubs, societies, sports events, drama groups, anything
where you are likely to meet potential partners. The kind of partners
you are looking for. I know its a cliché but you will not meet people
by staying indoors.
Take time off from dating occasionally if its not going well or causing
dating fatigue. Dating is an ongoing process and so recharging the batteries and keeping the confidence and optimism levels high is an
absolute must. So date in phases if necessary.
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Enjoy dating for what it is, dating. It is meeting people and
socializing and spending time in the company of stimulating individuals
who may or may not bring you a sparkle. The fact is, most people are
interesting and whilst you may not be out there looking for new
friends, you may well find one or two fabulous people along the way.
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Never ever make yourself too available. People like mystery and enigma
and the thrill of the chase when dating. In keeping with this do not
sleep with your dates early on if you want them to progress, so keep
sex until later. The longer a person is made to chase and fall for you
within reason, the more likely that love may blossom. Peak too early
and you have little left to offer and emotions may never have had the
time to develop.
